Talking with Children with Special Needs About Love


Any child’s experience with first ‘love,’or their first crush, is a milestone we all look forward to, and dread, in equal measure. It can be a maze of emotions and social cues that can be very hard to navigate without proper guidance. The first experience any of us have with love is within our own families, it feels natural and effortless, but the first crush is often a bittersweet experience.

With a child who has special needs, approaching the subject well ahead of their first crush is ideal. He or she is far more likely to listen and then remember your advice if they are not in the midst of experiencing those confusing feelings. Keeping your examples clear and simple, and preferably talking with your child while playing a game, sport, or doing a craft, makes the discussion easier. Staying positive and reminding them that these feelings though intense, do pass, and that it is important to avoid engaging in behavior that your family does not approve of.

Explaining to your child with special needs the temporary nature of new crushes, their unpredictability, and their intensity can sometimes be very confusing. Using tools, such as videos, to help demonstrate the various scenarios can be very helpful when children are not yet experienced enough to observe the social cues on their own.

The Social Skill Builder School Rules! Vol. 2 CD offers videos that talk about and demonstrate the differences between a friend and girlfriend/boyfriend


The Social Skill Builder School Rules! Vol. 2 software demonstrates real-life scenarios that prompt you child to ask questions and make decisions on what to say or do next, while observing real-life examples of the situation in question. Learning by example allows for a deeper understanding of what can be a very confusing time for children with special needs. Our software also provides an ability to keep track of progress, and simplifies the scope of what your child understands and builds from there.  Click below to view a sample of the many video scenarios within the School Rules Vol. 2 CD :

Sample Video from Social Skill Builder's School Rules Vol. 2

As your child matures, the nature of their questions will change, and our software allows for those continuing challenges. We also point parents to videos on You Tube to help them discuss the differences between crushes and friends with their middle school and high school-aged children. The visuals, that can be paused and played at teaching moments, help start a conversation about clear differences between the crush and friend behavior.

Learning to distinguish between a crush and real love is a developmental milestone, but using the right video modeling tools, including School Rules! Vol. 2, can make a sometimes difficult time of transition a lot easier.

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